Okay, I think I'm back on a more regular basis now. Quickly - my new venture that I mentioned a while back - I bought a magazine... Not just a single issue, I bought the whole business. Today's Horse Trader. ( don't judge the website yet, I'm gonna rebuild it) I enjoyed writing and working on the fabulously beautiful Savvy Times so much, that I wanted to have my own voice and voila! the opportunity came to me. If you live in Arizona, New Mexico, Colorado, West Texas or the tiny bottom corner of Wyoming, you should have seen THT at tack stores for the last 11 years.
My first issue has PAT PARELLI on the cover! (thank you so much, Pat and Linda!) But I'll still have articles in the Savvy Times - look for me there, too.
So that's my excuse for being missing...
More Important: YOU! And your horse. And your goals and plans and challenges. Please let me know what kinds of things help you the most here - feel free to comment on the website, by e-mail, whatever way works for you. My vision here is to bring you something you can benefit from every time I write and never forget that this is a relationship. So it helps to hear if I'm "getting warmer" or "getting colder" as Pat likes to say.
This post is titled "Fierce Conversations" because that's the book I'm reading right now. As you know, I believe things are true with horses AND humans when it comes to communicating. And I liked this bit of thinking:
"Our lives succeed or fail gradually, then suddenly, one conversation at a time. While no single conversation is guaranteed to change the trajectory of a career, a business, a marriage or a life, any single conversation can."
How would this apply to your relationship with your horse - with the conversations you have every time you play with him, or ask him to move his feet? The thing in the quote that has special meaning for me is that we "succeed or fail gradually" - because we either catch or miss the tiny changes. Did we notice the little miscommunications where we really haven't said what we meant or meant what we said. OR did we consistently reward the tiny bits of true communication where we have grown together. And then "suddenly" because the straw finally breaks the camel's back, our horse explodes or we have an amazing breakthrough. The gate can swing either way.
I certainly recall days (especially BEFORE Parelli) when my mind wasn't completely present, when I 'said' things to my horse that I would love to take back. And I know my horse still remembers - although Pat says "Horses never forget, but they often forgive," thankfully. These days, I want every conversation to have potential to build my relationship exponentially and 'open that gate' of genuine communication.
Notice the quality of your conversations and ask yourself, "Could this be the conversation that changes everything?"
I hope this conversation continues to build our relationship.



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